Difficult Questions

LOML has this very bad habit of asking me questions which will make me look back, no matter what the answer is.

Most recent incident happened a couple of days ago. Her son is currently with her ex-husband for the next few weeks. So her ex-husband decided that it would be nice for them to go out to dinner together since her son hasn't seen her for a couple of weeks.

My seriously wouldn't mind because even though they are divorced, they still are a family with a kid together... but it's just not my place to say whether she should go or not.

So she asks me if she should go or not. I tell her it's her choice. I'm not the correct person who should say anything about it for obvious reasons...

But she insists, almost to a point of us fighting.

You see, the problem here is, if I told her not to go, then I'm an asshole for not letting her see her kid and depriving her kid of the chance to have dinner with both parents. If i were to tell her to go, then I don't care enough for her and don't have the slightest feelings when another man wants to have dinner with her... plus if they end up fighting during dinner, it would be because I told her to.

So here I am. Stuck.

I was very careful with my words... I asked her if she wanted to see her son, if that would make her happy. She said yes. So I told her to do what would make her happy, because that would make me happy.

I don't want to toot my own horn, but I think I'm pretty good at maneuvering around the issue. She now goes to do what she wants, and I am not only ok with it, but I'm happy with her decision.

I just weaseled out of answering a difficult question!

Truth is, it pisses me off the she would put me on the spot like that. She refuses to make a decision in her life and instead leaves it up to me, knowing full well that any answer from me will be used against me the next time she wants to 'break up' with me.

Maybe she planned this... she's just setting me up... Am I just being paranoid...