I just got an email from one of my many bosses. They have confirmed the need for me to attend to a client which is out of town. Here's the best part. I'll be in another state for almost two weeks... this will happen next month.
Now this is a test for LOML. She has realised that her 'little episode' last week was uncalled for... and some time with me is better than not having me in her life at all. So now, she's about to face a big challenge.
Of course she's going to be extra fragile as the trip nears. But she has to be able to cope with it.
Of course I've learned my lesson as well... I'm not saying last weeks 'episode' was entirely her fault... I'm manly enough to admit when I'm in the wrong... I could have handled things in a different way...
So this time, I thought way ahead... Since I'll be there over during the weekend, I told her that I wanted her to 'visit' me during the weekend... this was, of course, the truth... so it wasn't painful at all...
So she's going to take the train for 8 hrs (overnight... she can just sleep through the whole trip) and join me there, where we will have a weekend by the beach (did I forget to mention that the client is based on an island :D ).
Why an overnight train? It's 1/3 of the cost! So now we can spend that money on something else!
Quite a few times in the past where I've wanted her to be around or I missed her and I did not tell her... All I had to do was open my mouth and say "Baby, I miss you... come over", or something like that... and she would feel loved, needed and important in my life...
I don't tell her, mainly because I am afraid she'll say "no"...
Huh!? Doesn't make sense, does it... but in my screwed up little mind, it does... to me it's like a rejection that I can't really take... even though it's due to valid reasons such as she is busy at work...
Insecure, eh?
I don't think LOML actually understands or even knows about this issue... I just touched on it a few times with her...
Oh well, I'll get over it... I'm doing it now by asking her to come up to see me on the weekend that I'll be away...
I'm strong... right?
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a girl who has been there done that would appreciate a guy who'd do more than just talk....saying that u misses someone ain't better than actually getting a ticket for him/her! good move!
my problem is not actually doing something about it... it's getting her to agree with my plans... she likes to feel that she's in charge... :D
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