Small Matter... Big Deal

Have you ever got into a fight with someone over such a small matter? They made such a big deal over such an insignificant thing when compared to the other problems we face in life. You feel like just smacking them and tell them that they are being silly.

Of course this has happened before... for some people, it happens a lot...

Now, have you ever been pissed off at someone and that person just dismisses it as a small matter and you should just forget about it? You try and explain to the person that IT IS FUCKING IMPORTANT!! It's important to you! You can't sleep at night because of it! But the person just shrugs and says "So!? Chill Out!!"

Of course this has also happened before...

Could it be that the person you're with is always wrong, and doesn't know how to prioritise issues in their life?

Remember there is always three sides to a story of an event. Mine, Yours and THE TRUTH! We only see our perspective of it.

When we face a small matter that seems to be a big deal to the other person, we should at least try to step back and try looking at it through their eyes.

I know what you're thinking... "I've tried, and I am confident that he/she is overeacting".

How long did you take to come to that conclussion? A whole five seconds?

Let's try this. Take your time with every situation. When at first you don't understand, raise your hand and ask questions. Ask for more details. Dig for underlying reasons. And once you finally understand the problem, then comment.

If after two hours of analysis, you still come to the same conclussion, then just go with it. If it's not important to you, but is important to the other person, then what have you got to lose by going with the flow? He/She is happy because you were understanding of their feelings... and you, well, you couldn't give a rat's ass what the outcome was, because it wasn't important.

Easier said than done. You need a very understanding partner. It's very difficult to get them to agree to be more open minded to every situation. So lead by example. Everytime they need you to understand how big something small is, take the time. Be understanding. Be the bigger man/woman.

After a while, that person should emulate the same behaviour. And it will make it easier to get through life's little/big problems.

Of course, after years of 'training', the other person still doesn't get, then just accept the fact that you chose a dumb fuck to be your 'loved one'! But you love 'em, and should just accept him/her for what they are.